The Garden Analogy

Outside of philosophy, are many things, to include
pain.  Just plain violent scorching pain.

Years ago, I built a garden.  It was small, and many
hours in the making.  Some children destroyed it in
play with a throwing ax.  My heart was torn.  They
destroyed my art.  For weeks I could not look upon
it.  I could not repair it.  I did not rebuild the
garden, ever.  The pain of my paradigm shift was
too great.  Oh, my paradigm?  I think it was
'Gardens = art'.  The children's paradigm?  Well,
maybe their paradigm was 'Gardens = play with

The two paradigms clashed.  And I lived through
violent scorching pain.  I felt it.  I know it.  Pain of
clashing paradigms is a tremendous and
overwhelming god.

All that to say, that we that are TG-anything that
walk with Christ are forcing a painful paradigm shift
-- or a clash of paradigms -- upon many fellow
believers.  The pain is unbelievable to the fellow
believer.  It is scorching pain.

To the mature believer, the Law of Christ over-
rides all things -- they will come alongside of you, to
gently restore.  

    To restore what? whatever is still possible to
    restore.  GID makes the outward person often
    unrestorable... but a Christ-minded person will
    then focus on restoring your faith in God, your
    hope that He cares for you, and your love for

    Faith, hope, and love are the treasures we
    seek to restore in any that are wounded.  All
    the rest of the stuff, well, if we can restore it,
    wonderful!  If not... restore faith, hope, and
    love, and you'll live the Law of Christ.

But, the immature believer often holds to
paradigms that are not the Law of Christ.  There
are probably dozens of these good (but immature)

    God cannot use the unclean (GID makes you

    the evil leaven must be driven away (or the
    blessing of God will be removed);

    all things are healed by repentance;

    all things mental shall never be taken away by

    financial loss is the sign of sin (gender loss
    must be the sign of greater sin);

    GID is deception of the enemy that you are
    choosing to accept;

    GID cannot be a medical nor mental disorder;

    and on and on.  

I think, but cannot prove, that these paradigms are
often essential during stages of Christian spiritual
growth.  They are immature paradigms, not
necessarily heretical paradigms.

Thus, when we that are TG-anything live the Law
of Christ, we non-verbally espouse a paradigm that
clashes with the immature paradigms.  And we give
them scorching pain.  Horrible pain.  They cannot
enter their garden again, and admire their flowers
of immature paradigms, without the knowledge
that you, in child-like faith, lay waste to that very
garden with the joy of Christ.

Sometimes, I truly feel sorry for the owners of the
gardens.  They must wall the children out.  They
have to,  yes?  Or, they will face pain again and
again.  Even the threat of the pain causes the
owner of the garden to make foolish "rules" and to
place "locks on gates".  The garden analogy helps
me to understand their pain and immature

I have destroyed their garden of immature
paradigms by living the Law of Christ.  Think of it!  
In their minds I must be evil; walled out; locked out;
reprimanded; or forced to pay a fine or
punishment.  But I hear their pain... and this helps
me to have the mind of Christ towards those that
must hold to immature paradigms.

They that hold to immature paradigms scream in
pain as we that are TG-anything live the Law of
Christ.  We need to hear their pain.  

I remember the day I met a kind and loving biker.  
My paradigm was immature, and seeing the biker
living the Law of Christ better than I, well, let's just
say that I was humbled.

When many Christians meet a TS (or TV) they
expect to meet an evil person.  When they see you
living the Law of Christ (even though you are a
TS/TV), they are humbled.  But - if you violated a
sacred paradigm that they worshipped and served
- be prepared to be hated for the pain you cause
them.  For now, you have destroyed their garden.

"Rejoice with those that rejoice; weep with those
that weep", the Bible states in Romans.  We that
are TG-anything, need to feel the pain of the
immature Christians and weep with them.

The Gymnasium Analogy

Oh, let's move on to the gymnasium analogy. The
Law of Christ is the end goal of a mature believer.  
Tis like walking into a very long gymnasium:

    At station 1, "Amino Acids are wonderful!".  

    At stage 2, "Nautilus lifting will enhance
    strength and flexibility".  

    At stage 3, "if you are really serious, you've
    got to do 3 days a week, minimum."  

    Did you notice how the paradigms keep shifting
    as the "lifter" or "body-builder" matures?

But at the very end of the long gymnasium, just
where you would expect world-class bodies to be
oiled, tanned , and posing ... we find OK lifters
trusting in the mercy of God for their own lives, and
pushing wheel-chairs, as well as helping wounded
soldiers learn to walk.  

Can you sense the paradigm shift in this analogy?
The final station of the gymnasium is not what one
would normally expect.

If you feel a sense of shock at realizing the final
station of maturity is not an oiled and tanned body,
but a person bearing someone's burdens, then you
can understand why so many Christians (to include
pastors) stop at the second-to-last station....
where they can strut in the mirror, tan in the sun,
and gain the applause of fellow bodybuilders.  

The Christian life of maturity does not end with holy
people, pure people, sinless people, or world-class
"Body of Christ" muscles... the Christian life of
maturity ends in a hallway filled with medics,
nurses, and wounded.  This is the Law of Christ;
this is the epitome of mature Christianity.

We that are TG-anything, that also live the Law of
Christ, are visible and undeniable proof to those
that worship the almost-last station of the
gymnasium, that there is one more station...  and
again, is it little wonder that they hate us, doubt us,
and avoid us?

We are such an affront to them. We are not
tanned; we are burnt from the sun of helping
someone in the desert.  We are not oiled and
standing before a mirror; we are covered with
perspiration as we pray for someone that is dying
that they might receive Christ.   We are not well-
muscled from endless exercises with dead weights;
but we are highly-esteemed by God for lifting
other's burdens and restoring what we can.

There are no shinning weights of chrome in our
hands -- there is blood and dirt in our palms from
working with the wounded.  And when the day is
over, we do not shower in the gymnasium with
pride, instead, we let Christ wash our feet in all
humility.  He must wash our feet, for we are filthy
from living as He did -- among the wounded of the


I hope these analogies help you.  Hear their pain
for they are immature; such hearing may help you
to feel pity for them.  You've destroyed their
garden, hon.  Hear them weeping in the corner.  
Have mercy on them, for they worshiped their
flowers more than imitation of Christ.  

Oh, and stay in the last station of the gymnasium
with Jesus.  Live the Law of Christ and bear one
another's burdens -- especially of the wounded
that are overcome.  And understand the strutting
of oiled bodies in the second-to-last station ... they
had no idea that the goal was to work with the
wounded -- they thought all Christianity ended in a
mirror-image of tanned spiritual-muscle.

Weep for them.  Weep with them.  

And help to bear their burdens.

Much love in Christ always;


(c) Copyright Caryn LeMur 2007
The Collection of Short Works,
Letters, and Poems
The Garden & The Gymnasium
I am often concerned about the
amount of pain that a TS (or TV)
causes their partner, their family,
and their church.

I am also concerned about the
amount of spiritual immaturity that
is present in the TS (or TV), the
partner, the family, and the

In hopes of helping a friend and
his wife, I penned this letter
having two analogies.

I hope these help you to
understand pain and maturity
from a new perspective.


The Garden & The

Dear J:

I thought I'd write about the
garden analogy and the
gymnasium analogy.  I hope these
help you.
In Deepest Sympathy -
Poetry for those that grieve
Building Faith, Hope, & Love -
Stories and Writings
A Cup Of Cold Water -
Letters For The Thirsty
A Pause In The Forest -
Poetry for thoughtful moments